It is said that the best among you is those who act gently to their wives. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “The believers who show the most perfect Faith are those who have the best behaviour, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives”. [At-Tirmidhi Hadith 278]. However, nowadays, many ladies are suffering from the behavior of their husbands.
I’m not generalizing but a lot of men do not act the way Islam teach them to their wives. They become emotionless when it comes to the feelings of their wives and when it comes to the feelings of their families, friends or even mistresses, they can give them the moon, the stars…even the whole planet. No, I’m not even kidding here.
I want those ladies to know that while there is still life there is hope and while there is light there is hope. Never give up on the word hope. As long as you are in good health, wake up and smile. I want them to become strong and to develop their strengths. You become courageous through hard times, right? So be it. The most important way to gain strengths, faith and happiness is through prayers. Pray to Allah every single day and keep making Dua. Allah is aware of the injustice you are facing. Never underestimate the power of your Dua.
To those housewives whose husbands do not provide for them, do not give them their needs and wants, who keep stressing themselves of what to eat every day, of what to wear every day, of how to pay important stuff, please stop it now. Whenever you see yourself start overthink over this please push it away and say Alhamdulillah. Bear in mind that Allah is sufficient for us, He alone provides for us…whatever is destined to you will knock at your door, if today Allah wants you to drink only water to survive, say Alhamdulillah. Remind yourself of those who do not even have water like what is happening in Gaza or Yemen.
To those ladies whose husbands are betraying them and you are killing yourself over this every day, again BASTA. He isn’t worth it. Aren’t you better than him? Know your worth ladies!!! Stand for yourself. We all know that infidelity starts from social medias like TIK TOK, TELEGRAM, FACEBOOK and a lot more. We can’t deprive them from using these nowadays. People are addicted to these. I haven’t use TIK TOK nor TELEGRAM yet but from what I heard it is scary. Scary because it is a trick to make people fall into sins. No one is safe from these. Nor our husbands, nor wives and not even our kids. It is what it is. If a husband doesn’t know how to use these especially a dad, then it’s his own fault. His excuses of you are crazy, you are processed, you aren’t a good wife, you are barely home shouldn’t affect you. He will try every way to put the blames on you so do not let him. Be strong and stand for yourself. Let Allah deal with his actions. He isn’t a baby, is he? ‘-‘
To those ladies whose husbands put families and friends before them. Whose husbands consult families/friends before taking a decision. Please my dear ladies, let it go. Try not to get affected by this. Deep inside you know that he is wrong so leave everything in Allah’s hand. It will hurt but if you focus on your salah and zikr, the hurt will decrease. Believe me, you might as well become emotionless over this matter all thanks to the constant prayers and zikr. Whenever I read Quran especially surah Bakarah I forget my pains and I’m sure if you do it too, you will see a difference.
I can give you a lot more examples but to cut is short, all I’m trying to say here is stop your worries. Start living your life. Make yourself beautiful for yourself! Respect yourself! Love yourself! Treat yourself the way you want to be treated. Learn to leave every thing in Allah’s hand!