Lately, domestic violence is on the rise.
Almost everyday, a woman is being abused, tortured, humiliated or simply killed.
Such barbaric atrocity is being committed by none other than their own
husbands. Yes, you read that well, their own husbands!
In fact, a husband should give care,
affection, peace, love and protection to his wife and not brutality and death,
right? Then how come, in most marriage nowadays there is brutality be it
physically or mentally? What could lead those couples to fight in such a way
that to kill is the only option? How come in just a fraction of a second you
have the heart to kill the one with whom you have promised to stay, cherish and
protect forever?
It seems so impossible but sadly, it's a
fact. On Tuesday 10 September,two kids went to the police station to ask for
help to save their mum but arriving at the house, the body of Shabneez
Mohammed, 35 years old. was found on the bed. She wasn't strong enough to fight
her attacker who in fact is the father of her kids. They concluded that
jealousy and misunderstanding lead to this crime. Seriously, is it even a valid
reason to remove the life of this innocent person? So young, she wanted to see
her kids grow up, she probably wanted to live life at that age but now it's too
late. What about the culprit? He is eating, drinking and sleeping everyday even
though he is in prison! As for the kids, this is probably the hardest part of
their life. Would they ever forget this tragedy? Will they be able to forgive
their dad? Only God knows.
Another similar tragedy. Marie Sorenza,
23, was found dead in her bathroom on Thursday, 10 October. She was stabbed to
death by none other than her lover. Her body was abandoned in the bathroom for
almost three days. This young lady was always abused by him but her heart
always brought her back to him. She was unable to leave him and she wanted to
make her relationship works. That was probably her mistake...or maybe not. Anger
and jealousy made him do this horrible crime! Where was his humanity at the
time he was beating her? Where was his ears, was he deaf?? Couldn't he hear her
cries? Only a heartless person would be able to do that. Her small fragile body
was so injured that she couldn't bear it and she died. Now, her youth, her
smile, her laughter, all are gone.
Yet another case. Sheena, 24, was killed
by her ex on November 11 - again jealousy, possessiveness lead to this horrendous
crime. It doesn't stop here! Far from it, there are cases where everyday the
husband bullies with vulgar words at his wife. The lady bears all that and
keeps it inside until she decides to either get out or to commit suicide. The
easiest solution for many women is to accept and to bear because they are
afraid to leave especially those who have kids. Many remain silent as they
don't have any support. They are scared of how society or family would treat
them. Some have hope that their husbands would change. Others are by far too
depressed to get out and to make a move. Personally, to kill because of
jealousy or anger isn't a valid reason at all. If you have by accident fallen
for someone else, if a marriage is already broken then no need to force it to
work out. Let the person go and live your life. Do not let anger control you as
well. If you find yourself in that state, just leave and go. There is life out
there. Women should also learn how to defend themselves. Stop being scared,
start by making a move. Do not let anyone belittle you ladies. You can work and
take care of your kids on your own. You don’t need to be a slave forever.
Mehreen